I had a great weekend (mostly). I got to hang out with some of my oldest friends and make some new ones. I was able to spend time with my bkf’s (best kink friends) who I have known for *gasp* 25 years and got to meet some new ones. What struck me most, however, was the almost instant camaraderie that developed among us. Two switches, a former Dom/switch now sub, a Dom, and an owned slave just hanging out and having an amazing time in each other’s company, all of us locked, and 3 of us plugged which of course gave us a point of reference.
Truly, it felt like a brotherhood of locked kink men, and I loved it. I will admit that I am envious of how comfortable most of them are in their own skins, embracing their kink loud and proud. I am comfortable around them, but have never felt quite that at ease with my own pervertedness. I’ve always been at ease around the like minded, but have always had to keep the kink under wraps around the muggles due to my work, which is fair. Of course, if you’re Sir Marc and live and work at the Tom of Finland Foundation, no one is going to be shocked to find you in a chastity belt and chaps. You might think twice about seeing your doctor dressed that way. I’d love to live in that world of being free to express yourself at all times. I don’t, but I can visit it.
We had one issue, where a family emergency developed and one of us (owned slave) had to leave early, but that’s a private matter I won’t go into. It did put a damper on things though. Still, I really enjoyed the time spent with my brothers in cages, and I think I’ve made some new bkf’s. Yes, there was some naughty business, but mostly it was just a group of like minded men enjoying being together and discussing kink life (and life in general), the joys of being locked, our dreams, and our frustrations.
Hopefully, we can all get together again soon. It sure as hell beats Zoom. There’s something special about men who are locked or who appreciate locked men. I guess it’s so central to our beings that we recognize ourselves in the other, and that brings an almost instant kinship. We get each other. And isn’t it wonderful to be in the company of others who are wired similarly? I think it is.