Unexpected

I met someone. To be fair, I met him almost a year ago. I liked him very much. I met him though my bff who had recently started a relationship with him. So, “bro-code” was clearly in effect. I was very happy for my friend and enjoyed the brief time …

Purgatory

7 days. 7 fucking days unlocked. 7 days of feeling wrong. 7 days of, if not quite being in hell, then being hell-adjacent. As you may recall, I was wounded by the Kink3D designs cage. I’m not blaming their product. I’m blaming myself, completely. Ever since I had to unlock, …

Conundrums

The two weeks I spent locked down tight in the Schandemask has got me a little bewildered. Let me explain. I’m still sorting out the feelings I’m having, so I apologize if I ramble. Those two weeks of (relative) suffering brought me back to an earlier time in my chastity …

Disciplinary Action

I never intended to be locked in a Steelwerks Schandemask. I knew about them. I know a few people who own one, but the idea of me having one was not on my radar, not even remotely. I purposely don’t use the word own, because while I might have bought …

The Switch is Back

While I have been primarily focusing on my submissive side, I have always had a Dominant streak, which I thought was in deep hibernation. I used to describe myself as a Dom with a submissive side, then a switch, and recently primarily a submissive, because that is where my headspace …

Krakatoa

I’ve really been enjoying co-hosting the Chastity Chat Twitter space with @thumpermn (other than I realize my voice is far less Barry White and far more eerily close to The Nanny when I hear the recording). We’ve discussed a number of topics and the insights of some of the participants …

What’s In a Word?

Boy, pig, slave. I’ve been all of them. What is the difference? Or is there a distinction without a difference? Is it just power exchange in a bdsm relationship by another name? Yes, and no. Just like with chastity, there is no one right way to have a D/s relationship. …

Maybe, Finally

I finally met my Sir. We met in LA last weekend. I was up visiting friends. I was nervous to say the least. Sir describes himself as a demisexual, which I had to google: Okay, I think I understand. I’m not that way, but if I’ve learned anything in the …

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