Unexpected

I met someone. To be fair, I met him almost a year ago. I liked him very much. I met him though my bff who had recently started a relationship with him. So, “bro-code” was clearly in effect. I was very happy for my friend and enjoyed the brief time …

Purgatory

7 days. 7 fucking days unlocked. 7 days of feeling wrong. 7 days of, if not quite being in hell, then being hell-adjacent. As you may recall, I was wounded by the Kink3D designs cage. I’m not blaming their product. I’m blaming myself, completely. Ever since I had to unlock, …

Conundrums

The two weeks I spent locked down tight in the Schandemask has got me a little bewildered. Let me explain. I’m still sorting out the feelings I’m having, so I apologize if I ramble. Those two weeks of (relative) suffering brought me back to an earlier time in my chastity …

Disciplinary Action

I never intended to be locked in a Steelwerks Schandemask. I knew about them. I know a few people who own one, but the idea of me having one was not on my radar, not even remotely. I purposely don’t use the word own, because while I might have bought …

The Switch is Back

While I have been primarily focusing on my submissive side, I have always had a Dominant streak, which I thought was in deep hibernation. I used to describe myself as a Dom with a submissive side, then a switch, and recently primarily a submissive, because that is where my headspace …

Krakatoa

I’ve really been enjoying co-hosting the Chastity Chat Twitter space with @thumpermn (other than I realize my voice is far less Barry White and far more eerily close to The Nanny when I hear the recording). We’ve discussed a number of topics and the insights of some of the participants …

What’s In a Word?

Boy, pig, slave. I’ve been all of them. What is the difference? Or is there a distinction without a difference? Is it just power exchange in a bdsm relationship by another name? Yes, and no. Just like with chastity, there is no one right way to have a D/s relationship. …

Maybe, Finally

I finally met my Sir. We met in LA last weekend. I was up visiting friends. I was nervous to say the least. Sir describes himself as a demisexual, which I had to google: Okay, I think I understand. I’m not that way, but if I’ve learned anything in the …

Maybe….

I’ve been talking with someone. Someone who gets what is going on in my kink brain and who wants pretty much the same things, from the Top side. Someone who is as excited about me being locked as I am, who wants to keep me locked away, and who encourages …

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