There’s something to be said for normalizing kink so much that you almost forget it’s kink. Even so, every now and then I get overwhelmed from the feeling that kink has become such a normal part of my existence. Usually, I go about my day, but once in a while I realize I am locked, plugged, and often collared in public and while a few people know it, most don’t. If they’ve noticed something, nobody has mentioned it at any rate. It’s delightful.
I’m self conscious when I wear gear in public. Even a leather cuff sometimes makes me a little uncomfortable. I have a few that look more like studly accessories than fetish wear, but still. I’m not in the least self conscious about my cage, collar, and plug, which is kind of weird if you think about it.
But no one notices. It’s my own private kink. I do imagine a world where kinks are openly displayed and accepted. It would be wonderful to live in a Folsom world every day, but we don’t (yet). Still, when I was young, barely any gay person lived openly, so there’s hope. Besides, kink is not limited to homosexuals. In fact, the majority of people have some kink they enjoy. This county is so sex averse that things change slowly. American go to Europe and are shocked, just shocked I tell you, that people are naked in public. We’re prudes. Seriously, you can watch the most violent scenes on TV, but god forbid a dick gets shown.
I would love to wear my gear at work, I’d love for everyone to know I’m caged and not even give it a second thought. I’d love to compare butt plugs with the neighbor. But there is something quite delicious about no one realizing that the guy they are chatting with has 2 pounds of metal up his ass and a titanium dick. It makes me wonder who else I meet has the same situation, because I know they are out there too. I feel a bit naughty, which I rather like.
With the exception of a few events like Folsom or IML, my kinks remain private. Still, it’s wonderful when people who understand all get together and we are free to be who we are without judgement. It would be amazing if that were true everywhere and everyday. In the meantime, I’ll just enjoy my kink with the men in my life who share it.